When publishing The Art of Loving in 1956, Erich Fromm became the first scholar to consider “love” and “the ability to love” as subject worthy of publication. More than twenty-five years after his death (1980), the book has been translated into thirty-four languages and endless millions of copies have been sold.
Here are my top 10 sentences from The Art of Loving:
1- The active character of love can be described by stating that love is primarily giving, not receiving. […] Giving is the highest expression of potency.
2- Love is a power which produces love; impotence is the inability to produce love.
3- Love is the active concern for the life and the growth of that which we love.
4- In the act of loving, of giving myself, in the act of penetrating the other person, I find myself, I discover myself, I discover us both, I discover man.
5- Mother is warmth, mother is food, mother is euphoric state of satisfaction and security.
6- Mature love says: “I need you because I love you.”
7- There is only one proof for the presence of love: the depth of the relationship, and the aliveness and strength in each person concerned, this is the fruit by which love is recognized.
8- Paradoxically, the ability to be alone is the condition for the ability to love.
9- What could the grown-up person achieve if he had the child’s patience and its concentration in the pursuits which are important to him!
10- To be loved, and to love, need courage, the courage to judge certain values as of ultimate concern – and to take the jump and stake everything on these values.
– LANA –